On January 24, 2012 my 12 week maternity leave had come to an end and I had to kiss my little ones goodbye and rejoin the workforce. As you can imagine there were a lot of tears and my heart was broken. The days and weeks leading up to that moment I turned to the few AP communities I found on Facebook to get advice and hopefully commiserate with other moms who had been in my shoes. *Instead I was met with comments like, “if you truly cared about your children you’d make them your priority and quit your job.” Another one I heard frequently was, “If you were just willing to make sacrifices you could get by on one income” (the assumption being that we had another steady source of income, which was not the case). I realize now that turning to the internet for support was naïve, but you live and learn, don’t you?
So on that morning in January I was driving into work, lots of tears, and extremely grateful for my younger sister answering my early morning call. She had just returned to work herself after having baby #2 and was the one person who “got” it. I remember telling her about the hurtful comments I had seen online and how they stung. And if I was feeling on the outs in my own community, maybe others were too? That’s when I told her about an idea for a community especially for parents who have to work or go to school and are trying to raise their children with attachment parenting. This would be our safe place and I would call it Attached Parents at Work.
To be honest, I felt alone in this predicament. I created the page on Facebook that day, but only had 5 or 10 pity-likes from my Facebook friends (thank you!). I remember thinking, “If I could just meet 100 parents I have something in common with, this would suck just a little bit less.” Never ever in my wildest dreams did I imagine meeting 3,500 parents. I knew nothing about running a community or Facebook page owner etiquette. I just wanted to meet others who were also attempting to juggle attachment parenting and being separated from their little ones.<br> <br> This has been an amazing two years. I quickly learned I was not alone and have since tried to pay that forward by evolving this into a support and education community for other like-minded parents. Thank you for your support over the years. I hope you have found support here, made new friends and things have sucked just a little bit less since you joined us in this journey.
*This was my personal experience at one point in time and in no way represents my feelings for the attachment parenting community as a whole. I received some supportive comments as well, but highlighted the comments here that nudged me to create this community.